The BootyCall

The BootyCall

Nothing has been more commonly used or readily acceptable since the existence of man on this earth than the bootycall. There will come a time in our lives when we may have the desire to call upon a known ex-lover to fulfill a sexual desire or emotional void, while we are attempting to overcome a breakup or loss of some kind.

But beware of these tactics; they can produce negative consequences and destructive fallout. Some people will go to church to find relief, while others will attempt therapy and still many will give in to lust. Others approach this issue with drinking and over eating, two self-destructive mechanisms.   Some people in today’s society believe, “the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.”

I’m a proponent of whatever works for you …you do.

I have never found solace in jumping from one bed immediately to another. Then again I have done things in my life that might be considered even worst; I will be the last to throw a stone. If you are someone trying to fill a void in your life please take some time to think about what would be the consequence of your actions, and then go for it with all the passion you can muster.

While searching the web, I found this question posed on a thread by a man who feared that his ex-girlfriend has now become a slut.  He heard about her having several sexual experiences since their breakup.  A woman who at one point did the exact same thing after she broke up from her boyfriend gave an explanation as to how she felt after that experience.  (Ejai)

QUESTION:

"This is some very interesting discussion... Da_1, as you can admit to having gone through this phase, how long did it take for you to realize 'hey wtf am i doing here, this isn't me and I'm not enjoying this' and what was the moment that triggered it?

im just trying to understand my ex's behavior. I keep emotionally bruising myself over it. I keep telling myself there must be something wrong with me, there must be something that over guys have that I lack. I must be broken. I cant stop these thoughts. I KNOW its her issues, but I cant just tell myself that."

ANSWER:

Well, i started feeling weird and very emotional afterwards. At first, i was getting pleasure out of this but at the same time i was looking for something more than sex. I wanted to feel loved and desired. And when the guys that i slept with asked me to "chill", it was only for sex and nothing like going out going to the movies or staying at home watching TV.. it was just for sex basically a bootycall. I was the one who at the beginning was using these guys but at the end i ended up to be "the bootycall" and i didn't like this feeling, i didn't like feeling used. I wanted to feel loved.

So, i started to feel sad after sex and kept thinking of my ex, and prayed to god to help me find a good guy that actually cares for me and wants to be with me no matter what the circumstances. This is when i realized that i couldn't be wasting my life away like this using my body to try and distract myself from this pain i was feeling. To tell you the truth, there was one night i drank shot after shot after shot of vodka alone waiting for my "friend" to get to my house because i didn't feel like i could do it sober....by the time he got there i was drunk and when i was with him i started crying for some reason. He asked me "what's wrong with you girl?" and i said " i cant do this"...i don't really remember after that but he said i fell asleep and we didn't do anything and he left.

I didnt feel like disrespecting myself like this anymore so i decided abstinence. And its working for me....i feel like I'm starting to love myself more and i feel clean..lol idk if your ex is going through the same thing but its just a phase because sooner or later shes going to start feeling like shyt like i didn't and wont want to keep doing it to herself anymore.

Actual thread here

MY OPINION:

How you handle pain is your own decision, just be careful and try to figure out what is truly best for you.

God bless and good luck.

(E. Johnson)

 

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